How?  Here are some ideas for an expensive, yet meaningful, date acitivites to avoid marriage burn-out.  Great tips from Nancy Van Pelt.

1.  Kidnap your partner for a mini-vacation. – an afternoon or evening of something he/she has been wanting to do

2.  Drive through a new housing development and tour a model home.

3.  Check out new furniture in a furniture store. (it does not cost anything to look)

4.  Take a stroll through the park.  Try out the swings and see who can swing the highest.

5.  Take a tour of yesteryear – cuddle in bed; stip a hot drink; or spend an hour going through family albums together, reminiscing about fun times shared in the past.

6.  Take a late-evening walk.  Talk about what’s on your hearts. (be sure it won’t end up in a nagging or whinning)

7.  Go exploring – any place your mate would like to go (within reason) = to a mountaikn hideaway or a ghost town you’ve heard about.

8.  Buy a copule bottles of bubble blowing liquied.  Go to the top of the tallest place around – a building, a mountain, the roof of your house.  Blow the bubbles and watch them drift out of sight.

9.  Go to the nearest pond orlake to feed the ducks.  Toss leftover bread to the ducks while you watch them dive and fight for lunch.

10.  Try a hot-tub date.  If you don’t have a tub, use a friends.  (Or you can even check out a hotel or motel in town)  Let the hot, bubbling water soak your stress away.  Talk about something fun.

11. Dress up in your best clothes, and then go to eat – at McDonalds!  Your formal attire in an informal place will be fun.  Play footsie with each other under the table.

12.  Create a treasure hunt for your mate.  Begin with a note directing him to a specific drawer in the kitchen, where he’ll find another note telling him to go to the car, where there will be a bouquet of flowers with a note with instruction on what to do.

13. Take turns asking each other out on a date.

14. While one of you is atg a board meeting and the other is driving thge kids to music lessons, redezvous someplace and share a bag of M & M’s.

15. Be adventurous.  Climb a mountain together, go surfing, or travel to a foreign country.

16.  Take a night class together 0 cooking, photography, landscaping, a foreign language, or craft.  This provides something new to talk about.

17.  Meet for lunch one day a week.  This gives you both something to look forward to and breaks the monotony of the week.

18.  Plan an afternoon of biking in a favorite neighborhood, in the country or an interesting place.  Take memory pictures.

19.  If you have a sick child or lack a sitter, plan a date in your bedroom or in a cozy bath converted into a luxury spa for two.  Light the candles, play your favorite romantic music, and read love letters you wrote for each other long time ago.  Add a cup of tea and homemade cookies, and you’ve got an interesting evening.

20.  Make a list of six acitivities you would like to do with your mate.  At least once a month take turns picking one activity from your partner’s list and joining with gusto.  Whether it’s horseback riding, scuba diving, or in-line skating, participate graciously just as you would if you were dating and not married.

By Nancy Van Pelt, the author of Highly Effective Marriage and many more  books. Article reprinted by the Health and Home.

Tips V – BOOST BRAINPOWER

1. Take part in a wide range of activities to improve the connection betgween nerve cells in the brain that relay messages.  If you work with numbers, you might spend your spare time doing ceramics, writing, or painting to protect against mental decline.

2.   Tackle routine mental taks (such as balancing the cheekbook) in your head, instead of delegating them to a calculator.

3.  Eat plenty of foods high in the antioxidant vitamins, such as C (found in oranges), E (found in nuts), and betacarotene (found in carrots).   They may protect cells in the brain responsible for memory by blocking the attack of free radicals (unstable oxygen molecules).

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As am getting older plus the type of job am doing, I need eye support.

Good thing at Zenni Optical, the have Prescription eyeglasses for only $8!  See that sample?  Am am so sure that will already look good in me.  With a very low price, i could buy two or three of that so that i can have one at home and one at work.    It is so cool seeing straight without breaking a bank.  They have cheap, durable, and stylish styles glasses so it does not hurt your pocket to buy lots of them.

They are know throughout the world.  In fact many knew that it was featured in New York Times.  So you can answer if anyone will exclaim,  Zenni Optical in the New York Times? Yes, yes, it was featured.  So it’s better you grab your next piece of eyewear from them.

I love shopping for a gift.  When i plan to give someone a gift i do the shopping myself.  I have friends who are busy so they ask me to buy a gift for them.  Now am thinking what is the best gift for for a husband from a sweet wife?  The hubby almost have  everything.  Do you think one of the video cards i saw online will be a good gift?  One of her hubby’s hobby is making video so I think this one will be the best gift.  I gave the link to her so that she can order online and give the gift later this week.  Hmmm Sheilah you are so sweet.

According to the short test i took, my valentine’s day personality is broken -

Valentine’s Day is something you could potentially enjoy, but not this year.
It just brings up too many bad feelings and memories for you right now.

That’s the problem with Valentine’s Day. It’s a double edged sword.
The better it feels when you’re in a couple, the worse it feels when you’re single.

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Oh well, am just silent at my end of the world.  Am thinking am loveless because it really feels like it.  We haven’t talked since the new year so am thinking that maybe he has come to his senses and decided that this year we will really call it quitz.   Well i did not expect his call but deep inside i was hoping.  I am wondering eh….For a month a half, he called, to greet me.  I did not talk much i was even quiet and he did not ask me anymore why…he said sorry…i did not reply.  He promised he will be online soon.  He requested my phone be connected to YM always.  Oh well it is but since it’s not in use anymore for soooooo long, then it just dc itself.   I was quiet most of the time of the 3 minutes call — quiet bcause i was crying. hehehe  Oh well it was good to cry — it lessened the toxic inside.

Hmmm am ranting.  Oh i should to keep me sane and healthy in spirits.

Happy Valentine’s day to all!